Hands off

1 Nov

With both sets of grandparents’ visits being so close together the differences in styles seem to be more pronounced. At the moment the Turtle is off rambling with Granny and Grandad. He could care less whether I am there or not. Actually, I think they all prefer when I am not there. Why?

Because they leave him alone. Unless he is in actual physical danger. There is no “Careful Turtle”; “No, no Turtle”; “(Do this) Turtle”; “Play with this Turtle” etc etc. He potters about. Does what he wants. And involves them when he wants to. And they are happy to be involved. To sing along with him rather than demand a performance.

Things are much less stressful in the Turtle household right now. We’re even going to leave the Turtle with them while we spend a night in Santa Barbara.

Someone said “Never try to make a happy child happier”. Wise words.

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2 Responses to “Hands off”

  1. isadori November 1, 2010 at 3:12 pm #

    Wise words indeed! I’m finding it hard to keep biting my tongue at all the ‘eat your x’, ‘go on, eat up all your y’, ‘are you going to eat some more z?’. Every time someone asks, he gets distracted and the food that was on the way to his mouth doesn’t make it there! Add to that that he never says ‘yes’ which makes the default answer ‘no’, asking him questions is reeeeeally counter-productive! Argh!

    • turtleturtleturtle November 6, 2010 at 11:28 am #

      I was heartened the other day when we came back and his dinner was sitting on the table, untouched! How wrong does that sound? But you know what I mean, it wasn’t mashed up and shoveled into him 🙂

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