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Life skills

13 May

Tell us about an important life skill you’ve learnt, and a situation in which you’ve used it.

I have been pondering this for a while. A life skill. That I have. I mean I must have some. Here I am, living, fairly successfully. So, what are they?

UNICEF, UNESCO and WHO lists 10 core life skill strategies and techniques as :

  1. Problem solving
  2. Critical thinking
  3. Effective communication skills
  4. Decision-making
  5. Creative thinking
  6. Interpersonal relationship skills
  7. Self-awareness building skills
  8. Empathy
  9. Coping with stress
  10. Self-management skills

This at least is according to cursory search on Google.

It’s motherhood, isn’t it. All of those life skills are the skills you need to be a mother. Undoubtedly, I had most of them before the day that changed my life forever, but whether I knew how to apply them? Well that is a different question entirely. I imagine it this way: life gives you “skills” in the form of puzzle pieces. Motherhood shows you how those pieces fit together. Some days they don’t all fit. Other days they do. When they do, well, life is rosy. When they don’t? The skill I use is “go to bed and cover your head and don’t get up ’til Monday”!

Life is challenging. My skills need honing. But looking at that list gives me hope. I have those skills. I just need to use them more effectively. That’s when life will be truly peachy!

Doing nothing

17 Dec

Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t think I’m doing nothing. I don’t think any other mother is either. After all, we’re “doing the most important job in the world”. I have a happy, healthy little boy. He can walk, talk, feed himself and sometimes go to the potty. Not bad for a 17 month old. Yet the things I do all day, the things we “achieve” are not tangible. What do we have to show for a twelve hour day together? Nothing. And when I get asked “What did you do today?”, the answer escapes me. I can’t put words on it, so I end up saying “Nothing”. Could anything be further from the truth? Probably not. Yet I don’t have words for it. And I can’t “show” anyone what I’ve done. I think this is why I’ve started crafting. At the end of the day I can say “Look what I did”, in a way that I can’t with child rearing or housework.  It gives me a sense of satisfaction. I suspect seeing the turtle grow into a kind, responsible, intelligent, caring man will be much more satisfying but that will take a couple of decades. For now, a couple of hours of knitting or crocheting will have to do.

Hopefully, one day, motherhood will be valued and explained. Then I’ll be able to leave my knitting needles down and “do nothing”.

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